Take a moment and just think: if I hold onto negative things from the past, is it doing me any good? Does it make us happy? Does it enable us to fulfil our dreams? Who is suffering the most? Whose life is passing by?
Forgiveness is to heal ourselves and let peace enter our lives. It lets us release all the negative emotions that we have been holding onto. It enables us to see that there are things in the world to be grateful for, to start attracting new and positive things into our lives and to grow in wisdom and love.
First we need to realize that we have a choice. We can’t control the actions of others, we do though have a choice over how we think and act. We can choose to stop reliving in the past and move on. Recognize how holding onto the past is hurting you, and commit to freeing yourself and moving on.
Start appreciating ‘now’. Where are you now? What is happening now? What is good about now? However small a something might be, find one good thing about ‘now’ to appreciate. If your mind wonders back to the past, just acknowledge that it did and then bring it back to the present. Start creating a bank of pleasant memories.
Re-think what happened. Put yourself in the other person’s place. Be prepared to try to understand why they acted that way. They weren’t born ‘bad’ so what might have happened to them to make them do what they did? How might they be feeling now? It isn’t that you are saying what they did is right; you are just trying to understand so that you can forgive and move on.
Also, be prepared to re-think your part in what happened. Were you partially responsible? Is there anything you could have done to prevent it happening? What can you do to make sure it doesn’t happen again? This empowers us to see that we have a choice and we don’t have to remain a victim.
Now, create an action plan. What are your dreams? Where do you want to be, say, in a year, 5 years or 10 years down the road? How are you going to get there? What is the first step? Take action. Focus on your dreams, not the past, and you will find that you will begin to move towards it naturally.
To forgive is to have mercy on yourself
To forgive is to value yourself
To forgive is to step closer to your true self
To forgive is to love yourself
To forgive is to undo the chains that bind
To forgive is to set yourself free
To forgive is to release the pain of the past
To forgive is to let go of negative emotions
To forgive is to heal the past
To forgive is to stop re-experiencing the past
To forgive is to give yourself the gift of the present
To forgive is to insure your future
To forgive allows you to move forward in life
To forgive invites newness into your life
To forgive allows you to reach your true potential