Have you ever resented someone because of their success? Or justified their success, with some trivial reason, so that you can easily dismiss them and feel better? Or even dismissed their success as “not my cup of tea”?
Most of the time jealousy is subtle. Most of us would be embarrassed to be caught with it, and yet jealousy happens. And when it does, it never feels good – it just tastes sour.
Simply put, jealousy is toxic. It can create distance and disconnection in our relationships and communication. We may even say or do things that we might later regret. It leads us to misinterpret things, as there is a tendency to make a lot of assumptions.
So – what will you do to release yourself from “the J word”?
Here are 4 simple steps:
Step 1: Accept what you are feeling. Don’t fight it or ignore it.
Step 2: Loosen the hold it has over you by facing the feeling head on.
Step 3: Challenge your feelings of jealousy: Do I have valid reasons? Am I insecure? Am I being overly controlling and suspicious?
Now, here’s the most important step:
Step 4: Zoom in on what you’re jealous of, not on the person but on their positive energy and qualities.
Instead of allowing the jealousy to bring you down, make your jealousy smarter. Turn your jealousy into a positive, productive emotion. Hold your head up high! Make it work for you. Let jealousy lead you towards inspiration. Motivate and inspire yourself to go for what you really want in life.
This blog is part of “The A – Z Challenge”, shifting one negative habit a week into a positive. For more info on the challenge, click here: https://www.innerspace.org.uk/challenges/a-z-challenge.php