Beliefs are either limiting or empowering. They trigger feelings; change them and feel better.
First understand how they are formed and then it’s easy to change them. Our beliefs about ourselves are the foundation of everything. External things make me happy, but why not be my own trigger and thus have the choice to stay in happiness all the time?
How do I lay the foundation to experience the true nature of the self?
1. Believe it is possible to change, to be free and content. I have the ability to change the beliefs that are crippling me. We need to feed the thought of believing it is possible, to counteract the deep habit of sabotaging or beating ourselves.
2. I have to be honest. If any ugliness comes don’t suppress it, hold it and look at it. ‘I am not this. It’s okay.’ and I don’t get stuck.
3. We are responsible for our feelings, not others’. I can’t change others; I can only change my reaction.
4. Have time for reflection, time to see the self. What kind of thoughts am I creating about myself? Just sit down and go inside. When I experience my own peace my beliefs that I have for myself change.
5. Don’t compromise the things that are valuable to you, like time for yourself. You know the benefits. It’s a question of determination. Match that belief with your actions. If I don’t do it, I don’t get the benefits.
6. If I have unrealistic expectations this means that I don’t know myself, these are created by ego and I have to keep reconstructing it. When I know myself and am myself, I don’t have to keep reconstructing my identity because it’s my real self. The only expectation we should have is: expect the best.
7. Whatever is happening it’s happening for me, not to me. It’s painful to let go of an old belief but it is good to do so. It is an opportunity to learn humility.
Constant practice gives you the power to realise what is limiting you. I need to get to the seed of it.
Result of self reflection and meditation:
We experience
– stability of mind. Things try to influence you, but you are not affected because you have done the work of laying the foundation.
– contentment because I am reacting as I want.
– enthusiasm. Every day is a day to learn to come closer to myself.
The more we continue on a spiritual journey the more things will come up, that is part of the journey. I have to see the good and the bad, admit the things that I can never admit. I need power to see it; that is why I need to do it regularly.
