In a dilemma we are at a meeting point of ways and don’t know which one to take, usually because we don’t have enough information or we are torn between two choices (we don’t know hat the right thing to do is). A dilemma only becomes a problem only when we don’t make a decision, and so become stuck as we are not moving in any way towards a solution.
Symptoms of being in a dilemma: insecurity, indecision, confusion, feeling lost, anxiety and fear. These are signals not the issue itself… signals that we are moving out of alignment with our truth.
We often confuse the symptom with the issue and decide/act to relieve the symptoms and not the issue. This gives us temporary respite from the symptom but the issue remains. We need to be able to distinguish the cause from the symptom and then face/accept the symptom. When we do we can then assess where we are at and what we we nee to get to where we want to be.
So we also need to know where we want to go. If we don’t we will go here and there depending on whatever comes in front of us. We need to have a clear direction/aim, the stronger it is the less we will be influenced etc. A sign that we have lost our direction is that we begin blaming others, situations, objects etc. Everyone and everything but I am the problem.
The roadmap to your life is inside of you, dilemmas happen when you can’t see it. It is the blueprint of your original nature and truth. Everything and everyone has its’ own blueprint. To see it we need to quieten our minds. As with a lake when its surface is ruffled we can’t see our reflection in it but once it quietens down and becomes still we can. So with our minds, we need to let the tumult of thoughts die down… then I will be able to see myself in context and I will know what to do.
Watch our for:
1. Self-doubt. We may actually be on the right road but we are not sure and/or insecure about our ability. Maybe we are being influenced by ‘what others may think of us’ or by looking for the approval of others?
2. A mistake? Decisions need to be made on basis of knowledge and experience. If we sometimes make a mistake this is OK as long as we learn from it, grow and move on. Then it is never about a wrong/right decision as whatever we decided has benefit in it and we gain from. What would you do if you knew you could never fail?
3. Avoidance. We also need to know our own strengths and weaknesses and see when we are deciding on basis of these and so not allowing ourselves to develop new strengths. To see these clearly I need to cultivate being a detached observer of myself. This requires me to be in the present and to take it one step at a time.
4. Attachments. When there is attachment we maybe deciding on the basis of not loosing that support rather than moving closer to our true goal.