In contrast, the serene mind is a contented mind. A mind full of appreciation and gratitude. A mind that knows that it is fulfilling its potential. A mind that is filled with wisdom and understanding. A mind that is healing for others. A mind that can weather all storms.
How can we create and foster a serene mind?
1) Ground Yourself in Your Deepest Identity. Serenity grows out of a deep sense of inner security. Our deepest security is grounded in our first identity. We have layers of identity, from our social identity (nationality, culture, position etc.) to our physical identity (male, female, son, daughter etc.) to our spiritual identity. Our spiritual identity is the deepest of all. It is rooted in, ‘I, the eternal being’. Spend some time exploring your spiritual identity. Here we recognise that we are all unique, valuable, non-competing and that we have nothing to prove.
2) Foster an Attitude of Gratitude. Gratitude leads us to feeling safer. It begins with appreciating the simple and everyday things. The things that we often take for granted, de-value or don’t even notice. Have you ever found yourself only realising the value of something after it has gone? We can then move into appreciating our own strengths and values, and the opportunities each new day brings to learn, grow and express the best in ourselves. When we begin the day by opening the door of gratitude, we set the tone of our day. Try it for yourself.
3) Observe and Discern. Getting caught-up in situations robs us of our serenity. We lose perspective and find ourselves getting sucked into the negative energy of the situation. Instead of reacting and jumping straight in, take a breath, hold back, observe and discern. Observe without judgement. This enables us to not over-dramatise and discern what is needed or the solution. We may even, for example, discern that the person pushing our buttons is in that moment, our teacher and not our enemy. That they are revealing to us something about ourselves that we hadn’t seen before and that will enable us to strengthen our serenity.
4) Exercise your Freedom of Choice. We can’t always choose the situations we find ourselves in or the people we are with, but we can always choose our attitude. When we can see that we can always choose our attitude, that we are free to always choose an attitude that sustains and protects us, we experience real freedom. We might choose to stay calm, to take it easy, to be more assertive or to be more courageous. We become free to choose to maintain our serenity or not. A good guideline is to ask oneself: What attitude will allow me to keep my self-respect in this situation or with this person?
Calm… tranquil… quiet… peaceful… serene… They’re all similar, yet each has it own slightly different flavour. You are unruffled, at ease, un-resisting, tension-free, storm-free and grounded in a deep inner knowing, security and power… Are you ready to step up to a calm mind, a serene mind?