Quibble over the small stuff and the important stuff might get forgotten or left un-dealt with, all because attention gets diverted from the larger and deeper problems. So is quibbling useful or is it just a waste of time and energy?
The thing is, nobody’s perfect and that’s why the quibble game is so easy to play. If people were perfect, then quibbling would be a tough game. The quibbler can always point out other options and criticise others, after all there are different ways to do most tasks.
Of course, we all have our fair share of arguments but keep it up and you might find yourself in ‘quibble town’, population you! Why? Some people may think you’re being contrary and get frustrated and they might just give up on talking to you.
So, try rethinking your habitual interactions because quibbling rarely accomplishes anything.
Let’s Not Quibble
Don’t get caught up with emotions and egos. Give up your right to be right. Accept that others have their own views and opinions.
That’s not to say avoid arguments, but it’s not necessary to debate the truth every day. Just choose your battles. If the small details don’t really help you to get your point across, just move on.
Be flexible. “In matters of principle, stand like a rock; in matters of taste, swim with the current.” – Thomas Jefferson
When you really need to point out small details: Stop! Take “time out”, step away, and just cool down. Then calmly highlight and discuss the details. Communicate in a way that enhances the relationship.
For the long-term, here’s a solution – work on being content and happy with where you are and what you’re doing, then all the unnecessary quibbling will just stop!
This blog is part of “The A – Z Challenge”, shifting one negative habit a week into a positive. For more info on the challenge, click here: https://www.innerspace.org.uk/challenges/a-z-challenge.php