What does living life to the fullest mean to you? Not to your best friend, partner or parents, and not according to media images or Hollywood. To you. There is no right or wrong answer, in fact, every answer should be coloured with its own uniqueness, as when we are living life to its fullest we are aligned to and expressing our best self. There are three aspects we can explore (vision, values and purpose) to dive more deeply into what living life to the fullest uniquely means to us. We can take all three or just one, as they are all inter-linked.
Vision: Your Best Self
To be living life to its fullest we need to be holding a vision of our best self in our mind’s eye. The ideal you. You living and expressing your full potential.
First, what vision, idea or picture of yourself are you currently holding? Does it fluctuate? Often, we are holding a negative vision of ourselves in our mind’s eye, and this could be for many reasons. The good news is that this isn’t set in stone. It can be changed. Here and now is the time to change it.
Second, reflect on the best ‘inner’ you. How would they feel and ‘be’ in the world? Such as, is your best you peaceful, loving, patient, kind, empowered, playful, creative or resilient? What qualities do you see in others that resonate with you that you would like to own too? Make your picture of the best you as ‘real’ in your mind’s eye as you can.
Third, replace the old vision of you with this new one. Align yourself to this new vision of yourself here and now. You don’t have to wait for anything to do this. You can do this now. You can even tweak your image of your best you as you go along too.
Values: What is Important to You?
To be living life to its fullest we need to be living our values. When we are, there is a natural enthusiasm, motivation and aliveness. When we are not, in one way or another, things just don’t feel right.
One: What is important to you? Maybe family, creativity or connecting and sharing with others?
Two: How can you create opportunities in the day to ‘live’ these values? Such as, if family, it could be sitting around a table in the evening for a family dinner. If creativity, and it isn’t part of your job, how can you honour this outside your job? If it is connecting and sharing you won’t feel that you are living fully if you are on a computer all day. So, look for opportunities to connect and share, maybe over a morning coffee or a shared journey to work.
Three: Notice how you feel at the end of the day when you have lived your values.
Purpose: What are You Here to Share?
To be living life to its fullest we need to be living ‘on purpose.’ Our everyday life feels meaningful. There is a sense of inner contentment or fulfilment. To be living ‘on purpose’ is to be living it right now. Note: this doesn’t have to be about our ‘day’ job.
Reflect On: What inspires me? What do I feel enthusiastic about? What do I enjoy sharing? Recall a time you felt a sense of contentment, what were you doing then?
The Trick: Don’t get stuck at the external level. It is what you are here to share. It is your unique contribution to life. It is something from deep within.
A Sign: There will definitely be a creative or giving element to it.
Be it: Once you recognize what your unique contribution to life is, start nurturing and expressing it. It might be, for example, to discover, expand and share your inner potential and to help others to connect to and develop theirs. It could be to create a harmonious environment around yourself and for others. Another might be to nurture your inner happiness and to share this with others to lift their load.